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Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle
Resolve the Power Struggle and Build Trust, Responsibility, and Respect
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—Library Journalstarred review
Power struggles between parents and teens are nothing new, but chronic control battles are destructive to teen development as well as the entire family. According to psychotherapist Neil Brown, these battles occur as the result of self-perpetuating negative relationship patterns. Chock-full of powerful and easy-to-use evidence-based tools, this book will help you understand and end the painful tug-of-war with your teen and foster a peaceful and loving home environment.
In virtually all families, there are moments when teens are unhappy with parental limits, rules, and requests—as well as times when those kids are disobedient or noncompliant, or get caught up in the moment and make bad decisions. But the parent-teen control battle goes beyond this; it's a chronic relationship pattern that uses up the family's emotional resources and can seriously impact child identity, self-esteem, and development, resulting in destructive behavior and causing stress for everyone around. This book offers a thorough understanding of the control battle and a clear prescription to end it.
With Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle, you'll learn about the three elements that support this chronic conflict—reactivity, negative emotional tone, and being "other-person focused"—and discover the two key changes that can be made to address the underlying issues, allowing you to move toward a more positive way of seeing your teen while creating vital behavioral change. Using tools based in structural family therapy (SFT), which targets the core relationship pattern driving the control battle, you'll be able to address specific issues and create a healthier pattern.
If you're tired of the constant battle for control and you're ready to cultivate a more loving, peaceful, and supportive environment for the whole family, this book has the skills and understanding you need to be successful, no matter what you and your teen face.
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Release date
October 1, 2016 -
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Kindle Book
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OverDrive Read
- ISBN: 9781626254268
- File size: 1021 KB
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EPUB ebook
- ISBN: 9781626254268
- File size: 1021 KB
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Languages
- English
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Starred review from November 1, 2016
Psychotherapist Brown offers a family-oriented approach to teen-parent power struggles, illustrating how effective change will require adjustments on both the parental and teen front ("It's not the kid, it's not the parent--it's the pattern"). Brown offers clear introductions to the three stages of adolescence, demonstrating the typical developmental challenges followed by four basic temperament types and how conflict between parent and child can make common demands even trickier. Likening power struggles to "The Beast," the author describes how to "starve" the metaphorical creature of key nutrients such as reactivity and negative emotional tones. VERDICT Full of practical expectations, such as making schoolwork a priority, helping out around the house, speaking respectfully, and being a good role model to younger siblings, Brown's work also provides sample dialogs and an encouraging style that makes this holistic approach to what can be taxing years thoughtful and encompassing. Warmly recommended.
Copyright 2016 School Library Journal, LLC Used with permission.
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